“If you want to marry a single mother in Nigeria, her children are not your children” – Lawyer warns men

A Nigerian lawyer, identified as Atanda, has warned men about the legal risks of marrying single mothers in Nigeria.

The lawyer took to his Facebook page to share his advice and cautionary guidance.

Children of a Single Mother Are Legally Not Yours

In his post, Atanda explained that if a man marries a single mother, her children from a previous relationship are not legally his, especially when their biological father is still alive.

“Her children are not your children and they will never be your children, especially when their father is still alive,” he said.

He added that a man cannot legally adopt children whose father is alive, and attempting to assume full responsibility could create legal obligations:

“If you turn yourself into their guardian and start taking over their responsibilities, the law may hold you liable for their maintenance, even if you later divorce their mother.”

Rights of the Biological Father

The lawyer stressed that the biological father retains rights over his children, regardless of the mother’s new marriage.

“The biological father still has the right to visit his children. You have no right to stop him, though you can prevent him from visiting them inside your property. You can travel with their mother, but you can’t take the children without the father’s consent.”

Atanda also warned that falsely registering the children as one’s own could be considered child trafficking under Nigerian law.

Divorce Decree and Legal Marriage

The lawyer further advised men to ensure the mother provides evidence of her divorce before marrying her, warning against assumptions based on traditional marriage or bride price:

“If you marry their mother without asking her to show you evidence of her divorce decree absolute, ignorance of the law is no excuse. You could end up in serious legal trouble for bigamy.”

He emphasized that legal parentage is determined by biology, not tradition or bride price payments:

“Nothing like, ‘the woman’s ex did not pay her bride price, so the children now belong to me.’ Na biological factor determines who is the papa, not marriage factor or bride price factor.”

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